Teach Me Love

There is much to love I wish I knew before I first decided to seriously let someone into my life. So many mistakes I made; so many times I hurt someone, and many more where they hurt me.

I learned through my own errors and forced self reflection. I learned though pain, tears and alienation. The shape love took wasn’t a product of who I innately was, but more so of early trauma and then a perpetuation of it through my life.

Till I didn’t understand myself, I inevitably went from one lapse to the next gleaning only marginal benefit. Every encounter shed some light, but in all honesty it took many repeats of the same lesson and then some bigger pains for me to finally see.

I wish someone had told me what love means. What qualities a compatible partner for me would have; and even more so, what qualities I can embody to attract that person.

Our society has tests and standards for something as simple as driving a car. When it comes to marriage and children; it seems any education is on the job or through trial and error.

Most elders think relationships are about the work you put in, and love is a short lived phenomena. Our generation seems to live and feel like love is the cure for everything. The answer as with most conundrums really falls in the middle.

Without work and commitment, all relationships will fail. Without love and intimacy, you’re better off if they do. The latter can be built with time, but I always wonder what the case would be for two people who start madly in love and proceed from there.

It would seem logical to think that if care and effort is put in from a grander starting point; the net effect would be far greater growth and a much higher final destination. All other things held the same; a conscious, driven and aligned love will prove the most fulfilling.

No choice is a bad choice, as long as it is an aware one. Find someone with competency who is willing to guide you, read on subjects that are relevant; most importantly let life flow through you.

Educate yourself on what is right for, and resonates with who you are at your center. Seek no less than the life you deserve.

~Frumi